The Gardener and the Carpenter

by Alison Gopnik

Rating: 8/10

Read in November 2023

A book about the philosophy, neuroscience, and psychology of caring for children written by a grandmother who also runs a cognitive and developmental science lab at Berkeley.

Her sentences are full of wisdom, and her mindset toward raising children is beautiful - "loving children doesn’t give them a destination; it gives them sustenance for the journey."

She presents a full picture of the evolutionary roots of parenting and uses this to inform her advice. She does a good job of exploring the nuances of raising children in each age group, and offers perspective on how we can use the science of parenting to improve the education system.

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